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My Madam Monday

Dichotomy in BDSM

Today is a busy day.

I enjoy being busy. Truly. It keeps Me motivated and gives Me purpose. I do My best, most creative, and most inspiring work under pressure and with deadlines. I love the feeling of accomplishment that I get from a job well done. I hold myself to high standards in all of My work and always try My best to do the best job with available resources. If a thing is worth doing, I believe a person should commit to doing the thing all the way or why bother?

Committing to the task before Me means I give each task, each person, each endeavor all of My attention and energy at the time. It can be all consuming to give of Myself so fully, even when it is for a predetermined amount of time. When the time for that person or task has been completed, I sometimes find it difficult to "switch gears" and move to My next responsibility. When the two tasks/people are vastly different, the mental effort of changing direction can be a real challenge.

Imagine, for example, that you are making hot, primal love with your favorite human... and your kid's school calls for an emergency meeting. Or maybe you have been in the depths of submission... and something comes up at work where you are the boss. Perhaps you are Top high from administering sadistic, uncaring torture... and the church youth group needs a leader. Ok, maybe that last one is a little bit of a stretch, but you get the idea.

The mental hopscotch, the compartmentalizing, the juggling of various personalities and images is a real-world challenge. We all do it, even our Vanilla friends bounce from "customer service" at work to "parent" at dinner and so on. We interact with our families differently from our peers even as children. It is a completely NORMAL thing to wear many hats on a daily basis. Just ask any parent!

The struggle is particularly true, and harshly so, in the BDSM Lifestyle. It is not uncommon for Me to hold a Vanilla business meeting in the morning, conduct an intense Power Exchange scene in the afternoon, and go home to family at dinner. Lately, as I've been blessed with work from multiple industries, I've been doing that dance more and more frequently with more abrupt shifts of attention.

And today is a busy day.

The Task 3.21.22

Today I Task you with taking a moment for yourself. No expectations of power on any side, just a moment to be secure in yourself and all the different faces of you as a complete human. Acknowledge and embrace the Dichotomy of life.

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